This is where they put in a full day of work at the office only to come home to start their “second shift”, the one that entails all the housework and the raising of the family.
Mothers feel that they have no choice in the matter, in order to be the “perfect” mother, they need to put in this shift, because it is their responsibility. Why does the father feel it is his right to come home and relax, when the mother is busy fixing dinner, and disciplining children.
Many women today want and desire careers and a place in this world.
They want to stand on their own two feet, to become a self-sustaining individual, free of dependence on another individual.
When the mother considers the idea of working and raising a family, many things need to be considered.
The responsibilities need to be divided evenly so as to alleviate the stress that will evolve due to all the changes.
In other words, they need to figure out what they can do best for the family when they both parents work.
If this is accomplished, the family will function better as a unit, and stress will be alleviated for all.
This is something that should be discussed and decided well before the mother returns to work.
In making role decisions, the parents must somehow combine their perceptions of the rewards and costs associated with each role in order to determine which combination of roles will provide them with the best role position.